About

Hi, I’m Melissa Welin and this…this is my blog.

I am the mom of a little boy who was diagnosed with fragile X syndrome in March 2006 at the age of 22 months. He was given an additional diagnosis of PDD-NOS in July 2006.

I began blogging to keep myself sane but I keep doing it because I remember how terrified I was when we received our diagnosis. When I searched on the internet for information, I found a lot of scary facts and gut wrenching lists of symptoms but nothing about what it was like to live with it every single day. I just needed to know that there was life after the diagnosis, maybe even happiness, and I couldn’t find that.

We were desperate to connect with local families for guidance and support but we weren’t able to find that so, in August of 2010, my husband and I started the Fragile X LINKS Group of Eastern Massachusetts to be that support for other families.

There are still families out there who find themselves feeling alone and my hope is that, if you are one of them, you can see that there is humor and love and joy still to come…even if you don’t yet believe you’ll ever get there. And please remember this, you are not alone in this. Please friend me on Facebook if you haven’t already or send me an e-mail. My home and cell numbers are available on the LINKS website. There is nothing more important to me than being there for other parents.

OK, that is about the end of the serious…let’s get to the more important stuff…

Facts about me

  1. I’m married, he’s pretty awesome. He’s also a web designer, if you need one.
  2. I have just the one kid who we, really and truly, call Monkey. No lie, we had to teach him his real name before he started preschool.
  3. I’m a fragile x carrier.
  4. I swear a lot, so does my kid. I consider it advanced social skills; he’s already got the potty mouth of a 16 year old boy.
  5. I randomly *bleep* out my curses here. There is no rhyme or reason to it. I’ll *bleep* B*tch in the same post I let a Fucker fly.
  6. There is no rhyme or reason to most of what I do.
  7. I like to number things. It gives the illusion of rhyme AND reason.
  8. I like love pumpkin eggnog/muffins/ice cream/pie/seeds, etc. If you put pumpkin in it, I will eat it. Or I will, at least, very seriously consider eating it as long as it isn’t gross. I wouldn’t eat pumpkin guts, I don’t think.
  9. I love have a deep and abiding passion for cheesecake.
  10. I do not even have words to describe my feelings for pumpkin cheesecake. I might eat pumpkin guts if they were on pumpkin cheesecake.
  11. Wine is a necessity, not an option. Riesling,please!
  12. I like to dance, not the normal “Hey let’s play music and move to the rhythm” kind but the “Let’s randomly start shaking body parts inappropriately when excited” kind.
  13. Number 12 is not at all related to number 11.
  14. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been asked, “What are you doing?” when I break into dance and, yet, I cannot stop myself.
  15. I have zero rhythm. It’s truly pitiful; you should see me on the Wii Fit.
  16. If you ask, maybe I’ll let my husband record it. I’m pretty hard to embarrass.
  17. Fuck is my favorite word ever but Mommy is a very close second. When you wait more than 4 1/2 years to hear your child speak, both sound equally sweet.
  18. My skin was itching over the idea of ending on number 17, I prefer even numbers. Please see number 3.
  19. The reasonable thing would be to think of 2 more facts and end on number 20. Please see number 6.
If a photo has ever captured our personalities, it's this one.

If a photo has ever captured our personalities, it’s this one.

Skill Set Become my BFF
  • Swear while maintaining an otherwise ladylike demeanor
  • Facebook AND walk at the same time without running into anything
  • Talk my husband into anything
  • Find humor in just about anything, including vomit, poop and soul crushing meltdowns in public
  • Burp on command
  • Convince myself that next time it will be better no matter how fucking awful this time was