I’m having serious writer’s block these days. Everything I pound out takes three times longer than it should, it’s very frustrating. It’s so bad at the moment that I’m even having trouble writing facebook status updates. Now, I don’t care who you are, that’s just pitiful!
In lieu of anything to say, I decided to add a new category to the blog. I get quite a few search hits of people asking about one particular topic and it invariably comes up when FX parents gather, so I decided I’d make it a little easier to locate the info here. If you look over in the sidebar you’ll see a drop-down for “Categories.” Potty Talk is the newest. I know it’s a struggle for all of us who are dealing with Fragile X, I hope some of what we did and learned will be helpful for others who are still in the potty training trenches.
In my opinion there is one thing that is absolutely critical for potty training any child with Fragile X and that is this, YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE IT WILL HAPPEN. I feel ALL CAPS strongly that you keeping your belief that it will happen alive is absolutely critical to success.
Now, I know, it might not. There are people who will tell me it did not happen for their child no matter what they tried, no matter what expert they sought out and I am not saying they didn’t try hard enough. I’m not judging them in any way. I know they did their very best. I know they wanted it for their child just as much as I wanted it for mine.
But here is the problem…as soon as you believe it won’t happen, as soon as you give up, it won’t happen. Ever. I’ve heard stories of people in their 20’s finally being potty-trained. Someone didn’t give up even after 20 something hellish years of changing dirty diapers. What if your child is that child? What if they don’t learn until they’re 16 or 26 but they learn? Won’t that be worth it?
Don’t give up! I know, I know, easy for me to say since I’m on the other side of the potty training tracks but I was told when Monkey was 2 that I shouldn’t even try until he was 9. I didn’t listen and I don’t want you to listen either. Start now. Believe it will happen.